How to Meditate - The 6 Biggest Obstacles to Meditation

I've struggled with meditation most of my life.with your eyes open. While driving, notice the
Over a span of 15 years, I purchased meditationaliveness in your hands as you touch the steering
CD's, attended meditation classes and read bookswheel. Or at a stop sign or in traffic, notice your
on meditation, yet was still unable to incorporate itbreath.
into my daily life. The meditation CD's usually putThese are simple ways you can incorporate
me to sleep and the classes and books made memeditation into your daily life without taking ANY
feel like a failure! In fact, my first meditation wastime out of your current schedule. If we all did
quite painful and I always felt like I was too busythese simple things, we'd have a daily meditation
to meditate!practice!
The sad truth is that while most of us are awareObstacle #2: Lack of Self-Discipline
of the benefits of meditation, very few of usThe second biggest obstacle people face in
actually have a regular meditation practice. Thereincorporating meditation into their daily life is lack
are a lot of obstacles to overcome in order toof self-discipline! Meditation takes discipline. I know
incorporate meditation into our daily lives. Imany of us start out with great intentions to
overcame those obstacles and have beenmeditate daily or to exercise daily and we might
meditating daily for two years as well asdo it for a couple of weeks, but then we lack the
meditating periodically throughout the day!discipline necessary to continue.
Through meditation I have experienced moreThat's why life coaches, personal trainers and
peace and joy in my life, I've become lessother professions have been created! To hold us
reactive and less stressed and I have moreaccountable and to keep us focused!
energy and creativity! And I know you canSo if you lack self-discipline, find a meditation
experience these benefits as well!partner! Ask your spouse, partner, friend,
But first, I think it's important to define whatcoworker to join you in incorporating meditation
meditation is? Many of us have misconceptionsinto your daily life. Hold each other accountable.
about meditation. The most commonOr even if you can't find someone that wants to
misconception is that meditation is about gettingmeditate with you, tell your spouse/friend/partner
rid of thought! That would set anyone up forcoworker of your intention to meditate daily and
failure! Meditation, rather, is about becoming theask him/her to check in with you and ask you
observer of thought rather than the reactor tohow you are doing.
thought.Just as an exercise partner is beneficial and
Meditation, pure and simple, is being fully present inproductive, a meditation partner can be too!
the moment! In this meditative state you areObstacle #3: Not having the right place or space
aware of the truth of who you are beyond yourto meditate
body and your mind.The third biggest obstacle people mentioned is
Have you ever been in awe at a beautiful sunset?NOT having the right place or space to meditate!
So much so that you forgot about whatThis is a "perceived obstacle." You can literally
happened 5 minutes ago, and you weren't thinkingmeditate anywhere; while driving a car or walking
about the future? You were completely in thethrough a crowded mall.
moment and had this sense of aliveness inside?People often use not having a special place or
Well, that's meditation!specific area as an excuse to NOT meditate. If
So now that we know what meditation is, howwe continually wait for the right circumstances to
do we incorporate it in to our daily lives? I knewmeditate, we'll never meditate.
the reasons why I had struggled for years beforeI give people a meditation assignment: to meditate
I developed a regular meditation practice, but Iin a public place! They can walk through the wall
was curious to see if others had the sameand notice people and places, while observing their
reasons, so I conducted an international survey onbreath or noticing the aliveness in their feet.
the biggest obstacles to meditation and receivedObstacle #4: Falling Asleep
over 400 responses from people in 46 differentThe fourth most common obstacle to meditation
countries. Below are the TOP SIX biggestis falling asleep. And yet many meditation CD's
obstacles to meditation, and how you cansay that it's okay if you fall asleep because you
overcome them!are still receiving the benefits of meditation...The
Obstacle #1: Not having enough timeonly benefit you're receiving is a peaceful sleep!
The biggest obstacle people face in developing aAnd yet, that is a benefit too! Meditation is
regular meditation practice is TIME. We don't haveawareness. It's being fully present in the moment.
enough time to meditate! (Interestingly enoughWhen you're asleep, you're asleep, not meditating.
this wasn't just an "American" phenomenon.Here are some tips if you fall asleep while
People from all across the globe mentioned theymeditating:
didn't have enough time to meditate).*Don't meditate at night before bed. So often
Yet there are 4 simple ways to incorporatemany of us want to meditate daily but don't think
meditation into your life without taking ANY timeabout it until we are in bed or getting ready for
out of your current schedule!bed and then we try to meditate. Of course we'll
First, I invite you to convert your waiting timefall asleep.
into meditating time.*Try meditating in the morning or mid day when
The average person waits 45-60 minutes a day.you are alert.
We wait for appointments, we wait in traffic, we*Meditate in small increments throughout the day.
wait in line at the grocery store and we wait onAgain, notice your breath for a couple minutes
hold on the phone. Yet those precious "waitingwhile brushing your teeth or showering.
times" can be converted into meditating times.Obstacle #5: Too many distractions
So next time you are waiting for an appointment,The fifth most common complaint from people is
take a moment to notice your breath. Or nextthat there are too many distractions to meditate.
time you are waiting in line at the grocery store,Yet distractions don't have to be distractions.
take a moment to smile from the inside.For example, during one of my meditations, my
Second, have a daily activity be your meditation.cat Vinnie came up to me and started meowing.
You can incorporate meditation into any of theseHe wouldn't stop either. He wanted my attention.
daily activities:Now to most people, this would be a distraction
*brushing your teethand a reason to stop meditating. Instead, I
*emptying the dishwasheropened my eyes, sat down on the floor with him
*showeringand petted him while noticing my breath. I
*eatingincorporated my cat into my meditation. Instead
*walkingof allowing him to become a distraction, he
*folding laundry, ironingbecame my meditation!
As you brush your teeth, notice your breath. OrIf you are meditating and a distraction happens.
notice the aliveness in your hands and mouth. AsJust notice it. Allow it to be. If it's something that
you empty the dishwasher, feel the aliveness inneeds your attention, tend to whatever needs to
your hand as you put each dish away.be done, while still observing your breath!
Third, have your dog or cat be your meditation!Obstacle #6: Not knowing how to meditate
Have you ever noticed when walking your dogSo many people feel that they don't know how
how your dog is completely in the moment,to meditate. We make meditation more
taking in its' surroundings? Well you can join yourcomplicated than it really is! Again, meditation is
dog in this blissful state. When walking the dogabout being present in the moment. It's really
notice the aliveness in your feet with each step.about finding what works for you!
Notice the aliveness of the trees, birds, yourAgain, you can incorporate meditation into your
surroundings. While petting the cat, notice thelife without taking time out of your schedule. Your
softness of the fur. Be completely present withlife can become a meditation. It is those moments
your dog or cat!throughout the day that we are fully present in
Four, meditate while driving! Now, of course, dothe moment that matter. And through meditation,
NOT close your eyes and meditate while driving.we discover the bliss of being that we are!
But you can be completely present while driving,