| When I started practicing Tantra with my | | | | 6. With your arms hooked and your breathing still |
| husband, I was thrown for quite a dizzying loop! In | | | | synchronized, start to sway side to side together. |
| the midst of the breathing and the movements, I | | | | As you move to one side, inhale together, and as |
| connected to him in a way that I never had | | | | you move to the other side, exhale together. Be |
| before. Mind you, we've been together for more | | | | sure to keep your eyes closed, and just allow |
| than a decade, and we're very close. But in our | | | | yourself to get lost in this union with your partner. |
| meditations together, we somehow reached a | | | | Drop all thoughts from your mind, and just focus |
| whole new plain of intimacy and understanding. His | | | | on slowly moving as one single unit. Do this for a |
| eyes were the same ones I had been looking into | | | | few minutes. |
| for many years, but now they were tinged with a | | | | 7. Now, start to slowly move forward and |
| new kind of depth and color. It was like we were | | | | backward. (As you go forward, your partner is |
| creating an entirely different language; like we | | | | moving back; and as you move back, your |
| were ploughing across a fertile and exhilarating | | | | partner is moving forward.) As you move in one |
| new land. | | | | direction, inhale together; and as you start moving |
| It is with much excitement that I share this | | | | in the other direction, exhale together. Be sure to |
| Couples' Meditation with you! You and your | | | | keep your arms hooked, and continue with the |
| partner can use this whenever you like. It's a | | | | breath synchronization! The slower the |
| good one to help you plug into one another after | | | | movements, the better. This way, you can really |
| a long day apart. It's also a good way to energize | | | | feel every subtle shift in your body, and you'll be |
| and start the day, and on the opposite end, it can | | | | able to put more pointed focus toward breathing |
| be a relaxing thing to do before bedtime. And if | | | | with your partner. Do this for a few minutes as |
| you do this meditation right before lovemaking, it | | | | well. |
| can really strengthen your chemistry! | | | | 8. When you're finished, unhook your arms, and |
| Whenever you choose to do it, be sure to | | | | adjust yourselves so that you're both facing each |
| approach the meditation with complete awareness | | | | other. |
| and an open mind! | | | | 9. Make gentle eye contact, and as you do so, |
| Here we go... | | | | try to get your breathing synchronized again. You |
| 1. Find a comfortable place for you and your | | | | might want to inhale and exhale through your |
| partner to meditate. If you want to play some | | | | mouths, so it will be easier for you both to match |
| music, be sure to turn on something that is nice | | | | your breathing throughout. Try and keep this |
| and soothing! | | | | going for five minutes. It may feel kind of strange |
| 2. Sit back to back, whether it's cross-legged on | | | | to hold eye contact for this long, but trust me, it's |
| the floor or on your bed. Wherever you choose | | | | worth it! |
| to go, make sure that your backs are touching. | | | | While you're breathing and making eye contact, |
| 3. Feel your spines come together and take a nice | | | | you may feel any number of emotions coming up. |
| deep breath here. | | | | You may feel like laughing or crying or making |
| 4. Now, close your eyes and start to synchronize | | | | noise. Or you may not feel like doing any of these |
| your breathing, inhaling and exhaling together. It | | | | things! Know that wherever you are is where you |
| might be tricky at first, but be patient, and you | | | | should be. And trust that completely. Surrender to |
| will find that you're soon in-step with one another! | | | | it, and just allow your body to guide you. Leave |
| Keep up with the synchronized breathing for a | | | | your mind out of the equation for this entire |
| few minutes. | | | | exercise. |
| 5. And, still breathing together, pull your shoulders | | | | After the eye-gazing and breathing, give one |
| back about an inch and hook your arms together. | | | | another a nice, long hug. |
| Your left arm should be hooked into your | | | | And there you have it! |
| partner's right arm, and your right arm should be | | | | A super easy way to connect, grow, experience, |
| hooked into your partner's left arm. | | | | and love, as an ever-evolving couple! |